Turning 'Stuck' Into 'Success'
March 22, 2016
My first client that I ever worked with was in a bad place in his life.
He was 35 lbs. overweight and felt tired all of the time. Despite being successful in his career, he was bored with his job. He wanted a new opportunity, but felt that moving to another market might cost him his relationship. By the way, it's not like that relationship was serving him in the first place. Privately, my client admitted that he felt as if he was giving to his girlfriend emotionally and financially, but not getting much in return. Even though the relationship did more to deplete him more than energize him, he couldn't pull the trigger to break it off. Being with someone who wasn't fully present still felt safer than being alone. To make matters worse, he didn't feel like he could confide in anyone about what he was experiencing since most of his friendships were surface level. Rather than feel any of the negative emotions, he would numb out by binge eating crap food that kept him obese and perpetuated the feelings of helplessness.
In a nutshell, this client felt stuck in all aspects of his life and the overwhelm was so intense, he didn't even know where to begin to make change.
So how did he turn "stuck" into "success?"
The first step was in admitting the real problem. He wasn't stuck... he was just afraid. In fact, once he got honest with himself, he intuitively knew exactly what new decisions needed to be made. What held him back was that his need for certainty had been SO great, that he was willing to stay trapped in a mediocre life rather than take a chance on stepping into the unknown.
Yet, growth can only come through facing uncertainty.
Once the pain in his life situation exceeded his need for safety, he was able to identify one small action step. He bought the P90X program and started exercising in the evenings instead of eating a sleeve of Oreos. In two weeks, he lost his first 5 lbs. The momentum led to taking another right action step of managing his diet.
Within days, it was as if the universe began to self-correct everything that was wrong. The toxic relationship had ended, freeing up my client to surround himself with more high-vibe people who elevated him. A month later, a new job opportunity had presented itself and he began the interview process. The weight continued to fall off and within 4 months, he shed an additional 30 lbs. He had energy, confidence, and felt surrounded by more love than he had ever felt. He relocated across the country to take a new job that would challenge him and help him grow.
His life changed in 4 months.
It all started by taking one small action step.
By the way, this "client" was me in 2012.
I'm no more or less special than you are. I've been at the bottom of the mountain, staring into the sky dreaming of what life would be like at the peak. The danger is that if you continue to daydream without taking action, you will stay stuck. The climb begins with one, small action step.
When you set a goal to do something and you follow through, you build confidence and momentum. You will begin to feel a sense of pride because happiness only comes through progress. Each little action step builds more momentum, and ultimately brings more joy.
So if you are feeling stuck in any part of your life today, simply ask yourself what is one action step that you can take right now that will serve you and push you forward?
Comment below and let me know what yours is!
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