Ditch Your Regrets
August 16, 2011
Regret. I wish I would have (insert regret here). Regret means you FAILED. It means you did NOT achieve what you feel you SHOULD HAVE achieved. While you "Should" on yourself, it's helpful to see why "Shoulding" on yourself isn't helpful in your career.
FOCUS AND IT COMES TRUE
What you focus on expands. What you fear, comes near.
There is an old racing saying. "Drive OUT of the corners." What this means is that when you are racing, your mental focus point when approaching a turn is to stay ahead of the turn, and to focus all your energy on driving OUT of the turn. If you focus only the exit of the turn, you will mentally (and many times unknowingly with your subconscious), point the car in the right direction to get out of the turn the quickest.
By looking at the turns entry, or also its mid-point, it will cost you valuable seconds on the track and create a slowing effect because the turn will be mentally AHEAD OF YOU rather than you being mentally AHEAD OF the turn. You become more of a passenger in the turn rather than the controller of events.
I never believed this until I actually tried it one time. I thought it was a bunch of hooey until I proved it to myself. Looking back afterward, it made total sense, but it is one of those things that sounded stupid until I actually saw the results of "driving out" and getting focused on the proper thing.
Another trick was "don't look at the wall" when you are in the turn. Sure you stay aware of it and know that it is there, but if you obsess and focus on the wall, you will absolutely hit it. Focus on the turns EXIT (the ultimate GOAL) and you will miss the wall and make it to your goal -- the exit of the turn.
REGRET MEANS REGRESS
Focusing on a regret is like forcing yourself to look at a failure point repeatedly. What you repeat mentally you will repeat in form. This repeated focus on failure will only cause you to go TOWARD the failure again. Remember, what you focus on EXPANDS. Therefore, focus on what you WANT, not on what you DON'T WANT. The subconscious mind works wonders on a FORWARD goal. By making it work overtime deciphering the negative loop only causes more memory to be used on something that is unimportant.
You want your brain freed up of all unnecessary negative loops so it can work toward your goal. While all negatives are helpful and should be used as an aiming tool, a regret is nothing more than focusing on something you don't want to repeat. Learn the lesson, re-set your goal you WANT, then move on toward achievement.
By regretting something, you are simply slowing yourself down. Take your lumps, learn your lesson, file it away mentally, and then re-set your forward goal. Then you are once again on your way to greatness!