Gripe Or Grow
November 1, 2011
You have TWO choices when confronted with a challenge in your career: GRIPE about it, or GROW from it. By choosing GROWTH, you can choose to use the situation to better yourself. By choosing GRIPE, prepare for an even rockier road ahead, as the GRIPE creates reduced success.
THE GRIPE FACTOR
Complaining about your situation is a great way to learn zero. And an even greater way to get nowhere in the future. The fact is, people who truly value achievement have little use for excuses, blaming, complaining and griping. If you hang out with the complainers (or listen to them), you might actually become one -- which then runs over to all parts of your life.
It is easy to externalize, to try to shuffle blame off of yourself, to try to pin a failure on someone else or onto a "bad situation." The fact is, every situation you encounter is "bad" until you do something to make it "good." Step up and be a person who is part of the solution rather than the problem, and you will see yourself grow.
If you are the boss of a project and you could hire one of two types of people, who would you hire? A person that will shift blame for failure, complain, come up with reason after reason for not being able to accomplish a goal -- OR a person who takes the blame, assumes responsibility, steps up, has ideas, displays a great attitude and gets the job done? Who would you want on your team between those two types? Who would create more wins? Who would bring more to the team?
One thing that has always been a major impediment to achievement is the "Can't Do" attitude.
THE GROWTH POTENTIAL
Griping, complaining, externalizing, blaming others ... it's all part of the description of a personality style the will IMPEDE growth.
To be the best at achievement and success, just subscribe to the theory that anything can and will be accomplished, and that all things are possible. If we can dream it, it can be done. If you can have that energy going through every day, you will always be successful. You will see failures for exactly what they are: chances to COURSE CORRECT for a WIN.
Failure is never permanent unless we allow it to be. When something goes wrong, it's a LEARNING experience to put the ship back on course, not a debilitating situation that has to be blamed on someone else or something else. What are you doing today to turn your failures into your wins?
Your opportunity is unlimited. You will be just as successful as you make your mind up to be. But you won't be a success by griping, complaining, blaming others, and shifting responsibility.
Grab the lesson, and learn from your failures. We all have them regularly, it is how we view failure that is important. Grasp failure, turn it into a win, and then just move on to your next success!