Adversity Is An Asset
May 22, 2012
No matter what your desire to succeed, adversity will help you get there. I know this from personal experience. Life when easy creates adversity. Adversity then creates opportunity as you work to reverse the adversity into prosperity.
LIFE AIN'T EASY
Believe me, you have had your share of adversity and you may, in fact, be facing much adversity today. The good news is that this very adversity that seems so terrible today is actually helping you become even better for the future - as long as you take it all in with the best of attitudes, and face it in the proper way.
When the going gets tough, that's when the tough get going is the old saying. This is not only true, but also will indicate your win/loss percentage. The people who bounce back just win more often. Everyone gets into situations where the going gets tough. It's all about how you respond to it that makes the difference.
RESPOND is the right word, not REACT. If the doctor says "He's RESPONDING to the medicine," that's a good thing. If the doctor says, "He's having a REACTION to the medicine" ... not so good. Remove REACT from your list of options, replace it with RESPOND. Respond with purpose and direction ... and you will win.
When you face adversity, it makes you better. A better competitor, a better person at figuring out success, a better person since you will be continuously working on your game in order to pick up the win. Nothing worth having or winning is easy. The game of life is not easy. It is up to you to figure out HOW you can make yourself BETTER so that you can more effectively compete for the win. What do you need to learn?
The next time you curse a "bad" thing that has happened to you (adversity in life), stop yourself, step back for a moment, and ask yourself how this thing will make you BETTER. If you can separate yourself from the actual event and become the WITNESS to it rather than the PLAYER within it, the faster you can get to success.
I speak on this topic with experience, having lost ALL of my life savings in a "bad" business deal one time -- a FAILED business. I struggled with that issue for years; it was a heavy defeat that left me in a huge hole that I had to dig myself out of.
What do you do when you face adversity? You find the way out; you become a better, smarter, tougher, more savvy person. You make things right. You work and work and work some more to make up for it. Today, looking back on that experience (which will be in the book someday, lol), it was the greatest thing to ever have happened to me personally. All great successful people have experienced crushing defeat, but the difference is they go to work to find the way to rise above it. You can, too.
This is a small example in the scope of the human experience, but it was huge for me. Once this loss occurred, I took the time to slow down and look hard at WHY the failure had happened, and HOW I could benefit from it, and swore I would find the way to course correct. What came out of this for me was a process that I use to this day; I learned that failure is to be accepted ... and expected. As any pilot will tell you, it's not the spin; it's the recovery from the spin that matters. This was a major paradigm shift for me that has served me ever since.
LISTEN AND LEARN
And it can serve you, too. You don't need to learn the lesson the HARD way like I did. You have the benefit of reading and listening to similar stories and people who have already gone there. Every very successful person will have "their" story of rising above defeat. You can learn what they did, how they responded to adversity, then apply it to your own adversity and failures.
As the old saying goes, "God gave you TWO ears and ONE mouth. Use them in that proportion." Listen, accept adversity as something that can make you a much better person, and be the winner that you can be!