Looking To Blame
May 7, 2013
There is an easy success trap to fall into. You want to be aware of it. It's called the "Blame Game" trap. If you can avoid this trap, you can avoid the failure after failure that can hamper your ability to get ahead in life. In this Success Tips, we cover the issue of Blaming and how it actually works against you - rather than for you.
BLAME IS EASY
"Hey, I tried but it was......" ("his, her, their, it, my boss, the economy, my parents, the weather, the industry, the state of our business" or a million other excuses).
It just seems natural. By shifting your responsibility over to others, you get off the hook. You no longer have to worry about producing something, or being something, or accomplishing something, or reaching a goal. You get a pass. Everyone will think it wasn't you. Blame is the answer for everything you have done wrong up until now ... an opportunity to cover your mistakes.
Long term, Blame is really a setback to your career. Blaming others for your career situation is simply causing you to achieve less and less. By being good at attaching the blame onto others, you set up an environment where you produce less and less. By choosing to spend your time blaming others, which leads to nothing of advantage, simply takes time away from actions that will create success.
The truth is, that making excuses and blaming others for your position indicates loud and clear that you do not intend to achieve in the future. Why? Because past performance is the best indicator of future success. Winners always find the way to win.
You are responsible for where you are in your career life today. All of your previous decisions and actions have led you to the place where you are today. A smart person will see this, and will look for things you say that are blameful. They will see your attempt to shift the blame onto others.
PERSON OF INTEREST
Let's look at TWO scenarios. Which person would you rather have on your team?
Person 1: "It was a great run. We had lots of success, and then the new bosses came in and changed things around as the industry started changing. I tried to tell them it wouldn't work but they wouldn't listen. So, sales began to fall and well, our division started losing money. So I started looking around because it was getting bad."
Person 2: "It was a great run. We had lots of success. The new bosses came in right as sales began to fall as the industry was changing. I was on the team to help sales. We jumped in, worked extremely hard together to stop the slide, turned it around, and well, our division became #1. So I started looking around to see what else could be accomplished."
Person #1 sees the change as the problem. Their lack of success is blamed on others. They also see themselves as overly important, an inflated ego-type. Rather than jump in with a good attitude, it's easier to bail out while pointing fingers. They were unable to pull a WIN from a bad situation. We'll talk about how to do that in the next Success Tips.
Person #2 sees the change (and themselves) as part of the solution. Person #2 is the proven winner, welcome on any team. Willing to work with others. Ready to pitch in. Talks about working together.
LOSE THE EXCUSES
Anyone can talk about how bad it is. That's easy to do. But few talk about how bad it is, then IMMEDIATELY shift to what they did to take it from bad to good. Few can be placed in a BAD situation and be able to extract a WIN from that bad situation. What's the win in your bad situation?
The best news is, if you don't like where you are, if you feel beaten down, you can change it for the better! Just decide to take full responsibility, get up, dust yourself off, learn your mistakes, and strike out in a new direction toward success.
Excuses don't work. You have created your situation. You must have wanted it. You are in control of your career, not outside forces, bosses, companies, the weather, or anything else. These things that you may want to blame are in reality simple obstacles that need to be overcome. How you face these obstacles is how well you will ultimately do. Or, as the old saying goes, "Lose the Blame, and Win the Game."