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Blessings From The Beach (not the sandy one)
November 3, 2020
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One irksome habit of mine is my incessant need to scroll social media. I roll and scroll during insomniac episodes at 3AM, snack and scroll, shower then scroll, sip and scroll, sweat then scroll...it’s incredibly addicting and ridiculous. As a life coach and hypnotist, I SHOULD know better. Ahhh to be human. While most platforms are currently cluttered with doom, despair, politics, and the pandemic, the bright side contains stories of success, pictures of puppies, memories of marriages, births of babies, and frolicking family adventures. I noticed I am most fondly focused on some of my former radio programming colleagues who are “on the beach” and excitedly engaged in fatherhood. No one WANTS to be “beached” aka as unemployed, particularly during a pandemic. There are a myriad of emotions and fears around being laid off. They range from the loss of identity and sense of purpose, to feelings of being unappreciated, anger, jealousy, worry, uncertainty and what the hell to do next. I know this because I’ve been there. It just sucks. So, one can choose to wallow in it and throw a pity party, or search for the silver lining. This is where the law of polarity comes to play.
The law of polarity is the principle that everything has two “poles”: good and evil, love and hate, attraction and disconnection. Think of the North and South Poles on a globe or a battery with its negative and positive terminals. Everything in the universe has an opposite...and so does unemployment! What IF this pause from working until your eyeballs bleed is exactly, poetically, perfectly purposeful? So, I did a random reach out to said programmers mentioned above via FB messenger and checked in. There I go using social media again! Only this time I wasn’t grinding or cajoling them into playing the latest stiff I was pumping. Instead it prompted a very meaningful exchange of gratitude and appreciation for their temporary break. I asked their permission to share their sentiments to show that there is a flipside to a challenging situation. I am truly inspired by the messages they expressed…
“Jobs may come and go, but the timing gave me the chance to be there and help out with Lonan. I’ll always have that (although the wife might have liked some more of her maternity leave solo lol)” RYAN PATRICK - former PD KAZR/Des Moines yanhoulahan@gmail.com
“While I ultimately need to get back to work at some point, I am incredibly grateful for this opportunity I have had to spend with my daughter at this age. We are developing a special bond which we would have likely missed had I been working all this time.” JOHN ALLERS - former PD WRFF/Philadelphia allersjohn@gmail.com, (267) 226-7857
“It’s been truly a truly magical month. Time that I would have never been able to spend with the little nugget is time I will cherish forever. It’s been so cool to watch her grow and change each day. Thanks for reaching out.” NIK RIVERS - former PD WLKK/Buffalo nik.rivers@yahoo.com, (518) 951-8986
“I echo John’s sentiments. It’s been a blessing the last 6 months to spend so much quality time with Max. Before the pandemic, and with my insane daily work schedule, I was seeing him for one to two hours a day. In the mornings and on the weekends. Never again! Wherever the next chapter in my life shall take me, I’ll make sure to do a much better job balancing work and family life without question.” AARON AXELSON - former APD/MD KITS/San Francisco axelsen.popscene@gmail.com, (415) 601-3270
Challenges can create change, obstacles can create opportunities, a pause can create a pivot, and a massive shift in priorities. Being present and available to children in their formative years is priceless. Cheers to these guys for seeing the light in the darkness and sharing their experience with this community. Hey universe, NOW gift these guys a new gig will ya??? We are all rooting for you! I hoped this has served you as it has for me. Afterall, it’s always an Inside-Project!
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