How To Stop One-Upping Yourself And Others

Imagine this. You’re telling someone a story and that person starts nodding like a bobble head sitting on a pickup truck dashboard. Then, before you know it, they have the audacity to finish your sentence. Even worse they go on to one-up your story with one of their own!

Sometimes on-air conversations can end like that too. I hear solo shows, team shows, and even podcasts throw in a “one-up” during the exit. Yes, individuals can “one-up” themselves by saying something extra at the end of an on-air break that they didn’t need to say. I affectionately call this an “up yours.”

GET RID OF “UP YOURS”

Here’s how you avoid one-upping yourself, co-host, guest, or even worse, a listener. As you plan your exit be mindful and flexible knowing that you or someone else may have an unplanned exit that’s even better. Here’s what I’d recommend if this is an ongoing challenge for you. If someone else has an amazing exit line, either save your planned or unplanned exit for later or simply keep it to yourself. I realize that’s very hard to do at times, but it’s worth considering.

HERE’S THE TAKEAWAY

One solid exit line is all you need to end a conversation. Practice having the discipline to let others take that shining moment. Honor others. Honor yourself. Honor your audience.

After spending 25+ years working at some really great radio stations, Todd launched a coaching and consulting business, Beyond615.com, on March 15, 2021. There he strives to help others build confidence so that they can connect on a deeper level. He also serves as the Contemporary Christian Format Editor at AllAccess.com. He and his family live in the (615) area code, aka the heart of the CCM industry.